Glutes

Should I be mad about wife getting massage? Gluteal muscles?

I found out that my wife has been going to this guy who's a massage therapist. She said he massaged her glutes. This really weirds me out because he goes to my gym. Am I making a big deal out of this? What do you think?

Public Comments

1. go and massage his laugh and say now were even
2. I don't know. I don't think so. I have gone to get massages before. My husband has been fine with it. I don't go often but it does feel great. I feel so relaxed and not sore at all. Massage therapy gets out the lactic acid that gets into muscles. The lactic acid can eat away the muscle tissue.
3. is she having sex with him, does she pay him, does he pay her. see how silly that sounds.
4. Hmmm, it could be legitimate, and this guy also could be taking advantage of the situation to cop feel. Ask your wife the circumstances of this. He should not have just taken it upon himself to rub her butt - she should have had sore muscles or something to make it right. I have never had someone massage my butt, and I have had many massages.
5. My mother is a massage therapist and they go through a lot of training and massaging the glutes is totally normal. Massage Therapists are strictly professional. There is no harm with your wife getting a massage...even on her glutes.
6. well being that massage therapist do and will massage a clients glutes, i don't see the problem. being that if you were going to a massage therapist, your wife would know before you even said anything, that your glutes are being massaged. is the real problem in the fact that the massage therapist is a man, and you actually know of him in the outside world? making you a bit paranoid? seriously, is there really any reason for you to not trust your wife about this?
7. Have her switch to a female masseuse, and if she gets cranky, you know something is up. I know business is business, but that is walking a thin line in a world prone to disloyalty. Do you want to play with fire, or will you have her do a simple thing and switch to a female masseuse?
8. I think that you feel fine, because if that is the only thing that he is massaging there is a problem anyone can do that, my man does it for me all the time, and he is just a regular construction working, if she is getting a full message then it is not really a problem, Imagine it was you not her, how do you think she would feel, and then from there deal with the issue
9. i think its a massage. it means nothing....it really feels good to release your tension. you should try it. and think about this that guy does this massage to lots of people. old young attractive unattractive. he really does not care. its like getting mad at your wifes gyno. just let it go.
10. he is a therapist for Gods sake don't you trust your wife to keep her wedding vows do you get up sit when she sees the Dr and allows him to check her breast for goodness sakes get a grip
11. well first why dont you go to the massage therapist and tell him your wife recommended it and see how it goes. I wouldn't worry about it I mean it is not like she is going to a MASSAGE PARLOR *wink wink* this guy went to school just to learn how to do this and if something was going on WOULD YOUR WIFE HAVE TOLD YOU?! you are making a big deal about it
12. If he's a professional, then he has to massage all of his clients' glutes---including yours if you become a client. My guess is that your wife is making a bigger deal out of it than he is.
13. I have a male missus, and my husband has no problem with it, well he says he don't. Now he does not touch my butt or boobs, but i know of some that do, but the sheet remains on that area. I would suggest that you have your wife to schedule a couple massage at the same place, and you can see what is going on, she can schedule with him, and you with a female, but a male does have stronger hands, and can massage deeper in the muscles. But if she is resistant to the idea of a couples massage, ask her why, and ask her if something more is going on between her and this guy.
14. I get a massage once a month by a guy. He also massages my butt....because it's a muscle. My husband understands this....and trusts me. Trust your wife and back off of this.
15. I think the bigger issue is that you have a wife who's been going to a massage therapist and you didn't know about it.
16. Well, massaging the glutes is a standard part of a massage unless you specifically say you don't want to be touched there. If it makes you feel any better, I have a couple of friends who have gone through massage therapy school, and part of their training is to carefully analyze any emotional or sexual impulses they may be experiencing with their training clients. Just like counselors, they want to make sure you don't develop any inappopriate attractions to your clients and have good boundaries. It may be weird the first few times seeing a guy at the gym who has massaged your wife's butt, but try to think of him more as a nurse or something. It's comparable to that.
17. I would not worry about it. Your wife told you about it because she felt good and wanted to share her good feelings. I have been a male massage therapist for 6yrs and I have had female clients that were worried what there spouse would think. I always told them if they had the time to bring them with and they could observe how i do a massage. Usually the offer shows that nothing is going on and everyone is fine. As for having her glutes massaged that is the biggest muscle in the body.
18. Glutes are a very normal part of a massage and you should not be concerned about it, especially if your wife works out or runs, etc. If you trust your wife you should not be concerned about her getting a massage. Relax and try one yourself!
19. more than half of low back issues are from the glutes, and so i always work on them if a client complains of low back pain and if the glutes are tight.. that hamstrings usually are also. why don't you 2 get a couples massage and youll probably be more comfortable with it all.